Why DNRS Didn't Work for You
While so many people have changed their lives with DNRS, I still come across people who say it did not work for them, and honestly, I have to just shake my head, sad that they gave up on something that could be so transformative for them.
Here's the thing. While every body is different and not every healing modality is going to heal everyone who tries it, DNRS is a unique type of exception to the "every body is different" mentality. Here's why:
Everyone has a brain. All brains change, both with and without our conscious input. Therefore, everyone can retrain their brain. DNRS doesn't have a monopoly on retraining your brain; it is just one of many maps available out there to make the process of neuroplasticity clearer and more straightforward for all of us who live in a culture where the easier things are, the more likely we'll do them. If you try to retrain your brain, you will. If you do DNRS faithfully, you will retrain your brain. It is actually just scientific fact: do, think, or say something often enough and your brain will change accordingly. So no one can actually, technically, truly say that DNRS does not work for them.
All of that to say, if you think DNRS didn't work for you, here is what most likely happened:
You quit too soon.
DNRS asks you to commit to at least 6 months of dedication to the program. Many people take well over a year to experience drastic improvements (old, familiar pathways die hard). Therefore, it is safe to assume that if you quit before 6 months because it didn't seem to be working for you, or if you quit after six months because you had experienced some improvements but not yet the giant transformations you were hoping for, that is likely why it didn't work for you. You needed time.
You were trying to retrain around an issue that didn't need it.
DNRS is for limbic system impairments, which can result in any number of chronic issues from anxiety to food allergies. It can also be used for any thought pattern or mindset you want to shift. (More on that in a future post.) But--and this may go without saying--DNRS is not for issues that are obviously physical. Here's some examples: unaddressed leaky gut, unaddressed arthritis, unaddressed vertigo.... Already healed your gut but continuing to have gut issues still? In that case, you may want to consider DNRS. Already cleaned up your diet but continuing to have pain and stiffness? In that case, you may want to consider DNRS. But haven't been to a chiropractor to see if you just need alignment support? Try that first.
If you have a pronounced physical issue that you haven't done the basics for, like chiropractic care or eating healthy or finding holistic care, I would recommend trying those first. Because six months of DNRS may not fix something like migraines that simply addressing magnesium deficiency might have.
While I personally believe everything is healable and brain retraining is a basic tool everyone should know how to use to their benefit, not every issue needs DNRS. Everyone can benefit from DNRS, but DNRS might not be your answer to everything. So it may not have worked for you because you were using it to heal something that had a cause other than a limbic system impairment.
You didn't seek out support.
Coaching is available through DNRS and I recommend it to anyone even though I didn't use it myself. I didn't take advantage of the
coaching option because I had multiple people in my life who were also
doing DNRS at the same time, and we supported each other in the ups and downs and bounced ideas off each other. It made all the difference. But I cannot imagine doing it completely
alone and absolutely would have added coaching if that had not been the case
for me. This is all new information and a new experience, and doing it
completely on your own is not impossible but also not very conducive to
success. A simple internet search or Instagram search may also bring you to experienced people offering DNRS coaching since it has only grown in popularity since I did the program in 2017. Support from someone who gets what you are doing is vital.
You didn't do it right.
That's a loaded blanket statement, so let me break it down much further.
I used to tell people that they cannot do DNRS wrong--and I would say that because everyone afraid of doing it wrong was just second guessing things and desperately wanted to heal while terrified they would screw it up. In those cases, they just needed to take a deep breath and know that their best was all that was needed.
But I eventually came across scenarios of people actually doing it wrong (which I've talked about in a past post here)--and those are never the people afraid they're doing it wrong. And then they wonder why it's taking so long or even quit--oblivious to the fact that they missed some things entirely.
So here's how doing DNRS wrong can lead you to thinking it didn't work for you:
Not watching all the intro videos or not paying attention to them. If you don't watch the introduction info, you won't know how to do the program, and then it definitely won't work. Kind of like buying a car without knowing how to drive, not really paying attention in driver's ed, and then saying the car didn't work for you when it won't drive when you push the break pedal. The information presented in the beginning of DNRS is a lot and very new to most people. So it takes some time and patience to get through. But if you don't give yourself time to grasp the basics, you're not going to understand what you're actually supposed to do and you'll be much more likely to quit and announce that it didn't work for you.
Breaking the rules. DNRS is very clear--when you take the time to pay attention--about what you should be doing and thinking and saying and what you should not be doing and thinking and saying. It's basically boot camp and it's strict. And while mistakes are a normal part of the process (like slipping up out of habit and talking to your friends about a symptom), routinely doing what you are not supposed to do (like continuing to habitually talk about symptoms) or not doing what you are supposed to do (like doing far less than an hour a day of practice) will set you up for failure or at best many extra months of unnecessary frustration. Which leads me to a similar common issue:
Not taking it seriously. Whether you don't think the details matter, or you skipped through the intro videos because you're impatient, or you didn't pay attention to how the practice is laid out, or you think you can do the program on cruise control and keep living and thinking and talking the same exact way as before, if you don't take it seriously as a whole, you'll be much more likely to quit because it "didn't work for you."
Not believing any of it. You can absolutely come into DNRS skeptical. I'm sure 99% of people do (including me). But a steadfast mindset of denial and skepticism will set you up for failure.
So in a sense, it can be true that DNRS didn't work for you. But if it didn't work for you, there's always a reason. And I would bet that it still can work for you if you come back at it wholeheartedly with an open mind and patience. Because as I have always said, the only way DNRS won't work for you is if you don't do it. But you have to do it. And doing it includes actually, accurately, patiently, faithfully doing it.
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